RELATIONSHIP SUTRA

RELATIONSHIP SUTRA

When trespassed 

SPEAK UP

if not heard

SHOUT

still no response or change

ATTACK 

and claim

PERSONAL TERRITORY

First step of speaking up is the most difficult in relations we postpone, we procrastinate, we tolerate, we submit, we overlook. Most importantly, lazily and cowardly we do not want to face the consequence of speaking up. Avoiding discomfort of pointing out to other as well exposing yourself, what if you are wrong and then you have to admit your mistake. What if other lies and gas lights you and you start to doubt yourself and what you feel.

HENCE WE CHOOSE TO STAY STAGNANT DARK AND SECURE IN RELATIONS.

Speaking up is the warrior the companion of your joy and creativity. If you repress speaking up your energy starts to contract instead of expanding in relation. Joy is not only jumping and dancing but communicating what you feel and see as true as your joy. But in a normal pleasure and happiness your speaking up has no power because you are living a life of bought entertainments not really connections where you created a relation and energy within yourself and it's, not open for misuse.

Remember this either you learn and train to speak up or face the disaster which destroys the relation when not speaking up explodes or implodes into walking out on a person.

It does not take courage to explode or walk away becsuse after a point things are not in your hands because your energy will create a tear from build up pressure of not speaking up.

Speaking up is a cleaning up of old and creating new and deeper connections with people.

Not speaking maintains old comfortable boring behaviours which later looks for entertainments in destructive ways.

Speaking up creates energy. Exploding depletes and destroys.

Remember speaking up is not about negative but about appreciation of the other also then you qualify for critical scrutiny.

Speaking up is about truth not about your emotions, speaking up is not judging the other but expressing what you see and feel and willing to change and expand not expecting other to change only. That is, power politics.

Speaking up is not about proving other wrong but bringing things to light.

Don't associate dealing truth with aggression because aggression implies your fault because you dud not spoke up and pretended and you became insincere.

Speaking up is about staying sincere.

Don't hold people hostage with your speaking up but a gesture of dialogue to deepen the connection.

Drop the fear of speaking up as rude because a truth can be told as, accusation or shared as observation open for dialogue.

Mostly people use truth as weapon because they don't know the truth of humility which is appreciation. But people use truth for ther arrogance. Humility of truth opens the other to you and arrogance of truth shuts down the other and shuts down the possibility of dialogue and change to bring change. Nobody wants to feel lesser because of your truth and everybody wants to feel seen and felt in your truth. 

Arrogance begets arrogance or hate. It creates misunderstanding even if you are right you become wrong

Speaking up is an art of dialogue not throwing stones at people.

When that does not work then shout you earned it to protect your intention is not to hurt other but create a distance.

If still other persistes then attack because now it has reached to survival of your space as well it crossed the line of normality into intentional damage. Now you are out of the system of law, courtesy you now has no option to destroy or be destroyed. You are now in the wild ferocious zone of nature and energy which is beyond the ethics and morals. That is the territory of speaking up and shouting still respecting the space and rights of the others.

If speaking up is done with clarity and stability it is more, powerful than aggression because stability and clarity puts across a point which addresses the clarity of otherDon't speak up as victim or blame which provokes negative disrespect.

Be ready to walk out of a situation if not heard that's why we cannot speak up because we are dependent on people we don't want to loose them. But that is slavery offering your power to others for use.

That is what i mean stagnant comfortable laziness of self decay which we call living.

There are methods and techniques for opening up our speaking  center which work with opening up your sound voice as well opening up your thoughts to have clarity through writing your mind about life relations.

But speaking up is an intentional suffering which o talk about. It's a relationship gym which develops strong bonding muscles but if relation is insincere it will create injury or muscle tear to the ego or you. Basically all hypocritical manipulative relations won't survive your speaking  up because they need your tolerating and submission. They need you to feed them and still feel indebted to the people you feed. That is toxic dependency and relating.

Learn to speak your truth without apology or blame or aggression that means your voice tone is not whining but vibrating from you belly, not rushing stumbling but calm and steady.

In martial arts you are, supposed to punch with full power without aggression or emotion.

Similarly speak up without feeling aggressive or bad about speaking up.

When you honour and respect what you say the same message is conveyed in your speech.

But if you speak with hesitation then you are creating space for other to interrupt you, prove you wrong or undermine what you are saying. Leads to argument

Argument is about who is right 

Dialogue is about what is right. 

If you are we willing to give up anything for what is right and sacred to you then your speaking up has a power and edge much deeper than aggression. 

Your truth becomes your power not family friends job but what you feel you trust and that trust earns you the support of life. 

First be your own support then speak without fear and without enimity that is what Ganesha or aum is a fearless creative expansion of sound uninterrupted by any psychology or fear or hesitation. 

Speak up means be alive, reflective and responsive like life. 

🙏🙏🙏 

Hariaum